Even though I was making fun of all those inspirational quotes from Pinterest the other day, there are quotes, verses, lines that do inspire me.
One is this line from Harvey. I don’t remember when I first saw this film, but I was young. I’ve always loved Harvey, and this line in particular keeps coming back to me.
(It’s very funny. If you have never seen it, give it a try!)
In my head, I actually don’t remember Jimmy Stewart saying “oh so smart or oh so pleasant.” I hear his voice saying “oh so clever or oh so kind.” (Which might mean that pleasant is the only option for me.) It’s only when I looked up the video clip for you that I realized (again) that I’ve mangled the words. But not the concept.
Like many, I suspect, I don’t want to think that these are ever mutually exclusive, but, sometimes, they are. Every day, in multiple encounters, I have the opportunity to be smart or to be pleasant. I want to choose kindness, but I don’t always. Some days, I’m just smart.
When a store clerk makes a mistake, or is just plain unhelpful, do I remain pleasant or do I snap or make them feel stupid?
I’m usually pleasant, at least at first.
What if it is one of my daughter’s teachers?
This is harder; I expect so much more of them; I want so much for my daughter.
When I was right and my husband was wrong, do I remind him of it later?
Sometimes, I just can’t stop myself.
Do I correct inconsequential errors?
Inconsequential would be telling someone that what they’ve called navy blue is actually royal blue. Not counting my own children.
If I correct, is it to help the other person, or to show my own knowledge?
I want my own children to know the correct terms for things. See above.
I’ve learned many others do not want to be corrected, so I try to stay quiet.
I don’t always succeed.
Do I use words to belittle or do I lift others up?
If you don’t find being corrected on inconsequential matters belittling,
this is my best area. I truly want to encourage others.
Most importantly, do I look for the good in others?
Do I try to bring the best out in them?
It is hard for me to think kindly of someone who has done me harm,
but I do try to bring out the best in others.
Thinking about it now, I’m reminded of this passage, Romans 12:16-18,
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
Be more kind than clever. More pleasant than smart.
(I had to look that up, too. I only remember the last phrase.)
What about you? Any inspirational movies?