I’ve always had a generous definition of fit. If a skirt is not too tight to get over my hips, nor too loose to stay up, I consider that good enough.
(I do insist on bras that properly fit. Well-made, supportive brassieres are not a splurge. They’re called foundation garments for a reason: if they don’t fit right, nothing you put on over them will look its best. Neither will you. I could write a whole post on bras. I think they are that important.)
Skirts do need to stay up high enough so to overlap with the bottom of the t-shirt. I’ve had to remove a bunch of skirts from my closet that were slipping too low or hanging too crookedly to be reliable.
So I’ve increased my visits to the thrift stores to once a week. They’re my best source of summer skirts, and I have almost replaced about as many as I’ve had to retire.
I find skirts more comfortable and appealing than shorts or trousers, and I wear them year round, with tights in colder weather. I’d rather wear dresses – I love dresses – but they rarely fit all of me at once.
Dresses that fit on top float away from the rest of my body, or they’ll fit my hips and be huge at the bust. Empire waists don’t usually help, because the high waist line often cuts across my bust instead of underneath it. I believe this is because I’m tall, not because my breasts have fallen.
Sometimes, I look at women wearing dresses, and wonder if they hired a seamstress to do alterations, or do they just naturally fit into dresses?
More often, I wonder if the popularity of yoga pants is due to the fact that there are millions of women out there who cannot find clothes that truly fit. Adding lycra is so much easier than tailoring clothes to fit the nuances of the female form.
My shirts weren’t much more flattering before I lost weight. It’s not that I buy boxy t-shirts. They all have a bit of shape to them, at least they look that way when laid flat for folding. On me, though, they look shapeless. If they fit at the shoulders, they’re big at the waist. Or if they skim the waist in a pleasing way, they’re tight across the bust.
Woven fabrics are just as bad, sometimes worse, even the ones with darts to shape them. They don’t hang right on me. There’s too much stiff fabric around my middle. Bust darts aren’t located at my bust. Princess seams rarely curve along my curves.
That all sounds rather whiny, but I don’t really think about it unless I’m shopping, which is how I spent the morning.
I understand why some women give up on trying to dress nicely. It can be disheartening to try on item after item and not have them fit properly. It might be tempting to think that the problem is our bodies, but it is not. Ready to wear is based on averages, and most women are not average.
As I told my daughter when she hit puberty, “All women are wearing jeans that don’t quite fit. It’s not just you. Jeans fit men and children, people without hips; women just wear them anyway.”
Tell me, truly, do your clothes fit straight off the rack?
P.S. – Have any of you tried custom made dresses from eShakti? I’d like to try them when my weight stabilizes.